The decision to retire from sex work isn’t an easy one.
When considering retiring from the industry, I think there are two essential things to keep in mind: the COST of sex work in your life, and the BENEFIT of sex work in your life.
When the costs of sex work outweigh the benefits in your life, it’s time to hang up the stilettos.
When you think about the cost of sex work in your life, you want to think about any negative implications or things that sex work takes away from you.
Some things that jump to my mind when I think of the costs of sex work are:
It is entirely possible that the costs of sex work in your life now are very different than when you started. Perhaps you’ve started a new career that means you are constantly worried about people at work finding out, or you are juggling three kids and a husband which means you have far less spare time, or perhaps you are more financially stable and taking the time out of your day to do a booking just doesn’t have the same pay off anymore. It could be anything.
In contrast, when you think about the benefits of sex work in your life, you want to think about any positive things sex work gives you. Some things that come to mind are:
These are all just examples that come to my mind – your list might be totally different. I think it is so important that you get crystal clear on the costs and benefits for you so that you can make the best decision for YOU.
One of the hardest parts of thinking about retirement is admitting that your lifestyle and circumstances have changed. Whorephobia and stigma about sex work are so engrained in our society. Acknowledging that the costs of sex work outweigh the benefits for you can feel as though you are agreeing that sex work is bad or wrong.
I want to take a moment to encourage you to always make the best choices for YOU. It is okay to admit that sex work isn’t right for you at this particular time. It is okay to say that the costs outweigh the benefits for you. That does not mean sex work is bad or wrong, and it does not mean you are condemning the entire industry. It just means you are looking after yourself, just as you were when you decided to begin sex work.
You must make the best choice for you, and you alone.