When I started escorting, I didn’t know any escorts in real life, and there was NO road map for this type of work. I spent hours googling and trying to find information with no luck. I had to go in blind, and it was SCARY.
I made it up as I went along. I don’t want you to have to do that.
As a sex worker, you are entitled to feel safe at ALL times while you’re at work. Here are my top tips to help keep you safe while you’re doing incalls.
I want you to be EXTRA careful about giving out your address. Obviously, at some point, you are going to have to give a client your address, but I want you to withhold it as long as possible. This ensures you aren’t giving your address to timewasters. You want the FEWEST people possible have your address.
You can do this by:
You can read more detail about some of these methods in the ‘How To Reduce No Shows & Cancellations‘ blog.
Always, always, always tell someone where you are and who you are with.
I enter all my bookings on a calendar app that I share with my partner. In the app, I enter the booking location, the client’s name and phone number, along with the booking start and finish time. My partner always knows where I am, who I am with, and when to expect contact from me. When my client arrives, I send a text to my partner to let him know that everything is okay. Then, I send another text when the client has left.
Discuss a contingency plan with your safety person – what should they do if they DON’T hear from you?
A security camera allows you to see the client before you open the door. It also provides you with an image of the client, should something go wrong (touch wood).
A popular choice is the Ring Doorbell, which you can quickly and easily attach to any door. You receive an alert and live video feed to your phone when someone presses your Ring Doorbell or triggers the built-in motion sensors. The Ring Doorbell allows you to see the client before you let them in and check for any safety concerns.
Another option is to have a security camera in your entryway. This won’t allow you to see the client before they enter, but you will have an image of them if something goes wrong. A popular choice for this is a Nest camera, which also streams directly to your phone.
If you are concerned about clients being put off by a security camera, don’t be. I have had a very obvious security camera at my incall for the past few years and have only ever had ONE client comment on it (and it wasn’t a negative comment – he simply said it was a good idea for safety). In my eyes, the only type of client who will be concerned about a security camera is the type of client that is going to do something dodgy.
If possible, do a visual check of the client before you open the door and let them into your incall.
Things to look for:
An external security camera, peephole, or appropriately place window are all excellent ways to do a visual check.
When I initially let a client into my incall, I try not to have my back to them. I will get them to walk down the hallway in front of me, rather than walking in front of them (this doesn’t have to be obvious – I just gesture down the hall and say “after you! The room at the end of the hall!”)
If you have a permanent incall, presumably you know where everything is and how to do a speedy exit if needed. If you are in a hotel, make sure you check out the exits and locks on the doors before you do a booking. You want to make sure you can quickly leave if need be.
ALWAYS get your cash at the start of the booking (EVEN with regulars). I welcome the client, take him into the bedroom, have a quick chat and then ask if he wants a drink. Then, I will say “Sure! Do you want to jump in the shower while I get that drink for you? I’ll just grab my cash off you first, so I don’t forget.” I then count the cash while the client is in the shower and put it away, out of sight in another room.
Try not to keep excess cash at your incall. If you MUST keep cash, invest in a safe and have it properly bolted down. It’s worth the investment.
If you live at your incall and receive mail to the address, redirect your mail to a P.O. box. This ensures that any nosey parker clients (or should we say ugly mugs) can’t get hold of your personal details.
Save yourself a whole lot of time (and frustration) by letting me write your copy. Think clear, concise brand messaging, words that prompt action and avoid clichés – I’m an expert when it comes to strategy and creating clever copy that speaks to clients.