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What You Should Consider Before You Show Your Face

By Amelia P

I remember scrolling through advertising directories when I started escorting and being shocked: escorts showed their faces. No blur, no cropping, no face-turned-away-from-the-camera-so-that-it-looks-like-you’re-sniffing-your-armpit posing. Faces out, in all their glory. At that time, I didn’t know showing your face was even a thing. And, if I’m honest, the thought of showing my face made me feel a little woozy.

I have a feeling you might be experiencing something similar. When you’re scrolling through directories and see that every second escort shows their face, it’s impossible not to feel a little bit of pressure. Maybe you think that showing your face would increase your income; maybe you believe that hiding your face means you are ashamed of your job; maybe you’re scared of your family finding out or perhaps you don’t want to limit future employment opportunities.

I get it because I’ve felt ALL of these emotions. It’s okay to lay down your fears about privacy, discretion, income and the future. In fact, it’s GOOD for you. Let me spend some time walking you through how to make the decision, so no matter WHAT you decide is best for you, you’ll have clarity around your conclusion.

Identify Your Why

If you want to show your face (and if you’re reading this, I’m going to bet you’ve at least considered the idea at some point), then you need to identify your WHY. Don’t just think about it. Take a minute to write it down and get specific. What do you want to achieve by showing your face? How do you anticipate your life, work, future and relationships changing as a result of showing your face? What would be your ideal outcome, and is that realistic? Once you’ve identified your why you are ready to move onto the next step.

Identify Your Sex Work Goals

Is sex work a short-term or long-term plan for you? Is it a full-time or part-time venture? Is sex work your career, or is it a side-gig? How much do you want to earn doing sex work and how quickly do you want to make that money? What sort of sex work do you want to do, and is it necessary to show your face to do that type of work? If you do feel as though it’s necessary, are there any other ways to achieve what you wish to achieve, without showing your face?

Consider The Future

What else is going on in your life, and is there potential for sex work to impact this negatively? Is showing your face worth the negative consequences down the track? I think we can often get caught up in short-term gain, and not consider long-term plans.

Areas of the future to consider might include:

  • Employment opportunities – Will showing your face help or hinder your future employment opportunities? If you wish to work within the industry in another capacity (e.g., at a peer-run sex worker organisation) then being face-out may not matter. However, if you wish to work in another field, then this is something you should consider carefully. Stigma is real and alive (though we’d all prefer if it would just take itself out with the trash). Carefully consider how stigma might impact your work in another field. Will you be upfront with employers about sex work? If not, make sure you have a game-plan in case it ever gets brought to attention, because it will be difficult to deny if you are face-out. You want to be in control. If you don’t have other employment plans, consider whether this may change in the future.
  • Relationships – Romantic partners, friendships, family members – do you want these people knowing about sex work? You may be out and proud, or you might not be. Either way, it’s worth thinking about how being face-out will impact who you tell and how.
  • Travel plans – Facial recognition technology is upon us, and it’s not going anywhere. Facial recognition has the very real implication of affecting where you can and can’t travel. For example, if you have worked as a sex worker within the past ten years, you are already at risk of being detained, questioned and prevented from entering the United States. You do not have to have been convicted or charged, and you do not need to be travelling for work purposes. Simply having engaged in sex work is grounds for being denied entry. Being detained, denied entry and banned from counties has happened, and will continue to happen, to sex workers who travel. Facial recognition technology is only going to increase this risk.

You need to weigh up the pros and cons of showing your face as an escort. I would encourage you to get very real with yourself and spend time exploring the probability of every consequence that pops up during this process. Make sure you create an action plan for each possible consequence of showing your face, so YOU stay in CONTROL. Thinking about possible consequences can be difficult and confronting. Still, it’s a hell of a lot easier than being faced with a nasty situation that could have been avoided with some forward-thinking.

Only you can decide if it’s right for you.


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Disclaimer: I cannot, and do not, speak for all sex workers. I speak from my experience of working in a legal brothel and as an independent escort in Australia. Where possible I try to be inclusive. However, I can’t relay every experience of sex work – especially if I haven’t experienced it myself.

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