I remember when I was just getting started and felt like a sad little lost puppy trying to track down what I needed, how to buy it, and what I should be spending while diving into the world of sex work. It’s intimidating, and it takes a LONG time to figure out what works perfectly for you.
I have friends who take a literal suitcase full of supplies to outcalls, while I prefer a simple crossbody bag filled with a few essentials. It’s important to consider that the type of work you do will impact the amount of supplies you need.
Let me give you my line up.
My Outcall Bag: Celine Trio
Do you need a bag this expensive for outcalls? No. Do I love it? Yes.
Look, it took me years and years before I bought my first designer bag. My advice? Don’t get into debt for a fancy bag. I started with a Kmart bag until I built up and bought a few more expensive pieces that I love.
A few things that I wish I would have known when getting started: your possessions, appearance or online presence do not define you or your potential of success. I know it’s easy to look at shiny photoshoots of ‘successful’ escorts wearing Louboutins and feel like you need to keep up.
In my experience, Louboutins and designer handbags are not what will make you money. Don’t get caught up in the escorting social media hype. If a designer bag is something you crave, work for it. But don’t feel like it’s something you need to be successful.
With that said, this is my ultimate outcall bag. It has three separate compartments which means I can separate my supplies.
Cardholder, Keys and Phones
Goes without saying. I know some sex workers prefer to leave any identification (e.g., credit cards, drivers license) at home when they go to outcalls, but this isn’t something I personally do. The majority of the time I drive to outcalls. If parking will be tricky or I’m having a glass of wine or two with dinner then I’ll take an Uber instead.
I’ve never been a lipstick wearer, but I carry lip balm with me wherever I go. Cliche, but Lucas Paw Paw is my favourite.
Useful to freshen up with after a shower. My favourite is Resurrection from Aesop.
Comb, Hair Tie and Bobby Pins
So that I can leave the hotel minus the sex hair.
In three sizes, because it’s important to be prepared! I prefer non-latex condoms where possible, as I find them less irritating. I use Skyn Original and Large. For small condoms I use Four Seasons Naked Closer – I’m yet to find an affordable non-latex alternative! I will take between three to five of each size, depending on the booking length.
I use Pjur Aqua Personal Lubricant in the 100ml size for outcalls. It has a screw-top lid so it doesn’t leak, and it’s small enough to fit in a crossbody bag. Pjur can also be purchased online at Condom Sales.
You can pick these up from the supermarket for a few dollars for a massive pack. I carry one or two with me on outcalls. Condoms down the toilet are bad for the environment, and condoms in the trash can smell. The solution? Nappy bags!
A mini packet of wet wipes is a must, especially if you run out of time (or don’t want to) to shower before leaving.
If a client asks me to bring some toys along, then the Tango by We-Vibe is my go-to. It’s incredibly compact and easy to fit in a small bag.
Disclaimer: I cannot, and do not, speak for all sex workers. I speak from my experience of working in a legal brothel and as an independent escort in Australia. Where possible I try to be inclusive. However, I can’t relay every experience of sex work – especially if I haven’t experienced it myself.
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